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Parable of 10 Virgins

For those who would like to delve further, here is a great illustration of the 1o Virgins Parable by Jesus in Matt 25. Remember, Jesus gave symbols in the parables to depict certain simple truths:

  • Oil= Holy Spirit
  • Lamp= physical/bodily vessel=Christians
  • Virgins=chaste women= Christ’s Church as a body

Do you have enough Oil when it gets as dark as midnight to meet Jesus?? Prov 20:27

‘Tis The Season…to Love

“I think I would rather possess eyes that know no sight, ears that know no sound, hands that know no touch than a heart that knows no love.” Anonymous 

As I was away busy this week preparing & enjoying my mother’s birthday, I came across this insightful quote and spent holiday seasonsome time meditating on it. Authentic love is taken for granted these days and many couples and singles mistaken infatuation for love. Infatuation is a superficial state of euphoria, excitement, and attraction one feels towards the idea of who they perceive the other person to be. Love, on the other hand, is an action, not simply a state of emotion or mind. Love is the result of knowing the actual person, accepting all elements of their personality, and being concerned about their well being through good and bad circumstances. If you were infatuated with someone, you would not sacrifice yourself for the betterment of the other person. Could you be “ok” living without sight for the person you have a crush on? If you’re “obsessed” with the person, then that’s another story (and that wouldn’t be “love” anyways)! But, love allows you to forgive, it allows you to respect & honor the person for who God created them to be and to become. Love allows room for the shortcomings a person has being human and it drives you to support the other in spite of struggles…

1 Corinth 13:2 “If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.”

In these Last Days before Christ returns, this decaying world is in desperate need of encountering and experiencing authentic love. As Christians, our ministry to others can supply that need abundantly through Christ’s power, however our marriages & love relationships can also exemplify true love. Others, both believers & unbelievers alike, are watching how we treat our partners to become familiar with what really sets us apart from the world. Therefore, we should contemplate on how we are communicating love to each other to send the right message of love from God’s Holy Word. Circumstances don’t have to be ideal to love someone…you may not get the “trophy” husband or wife to brag about, nor the “super model” looks which are deceiving anyways. But, you will need to come from a place of empathy, compassion, and knowledge of Christ’s love in order to love another person…

Rom 5:8 “But God commends his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”

Jesus love

Genuine love meets us where we’re at in life and endures through all circumstances from then on, just as God loves us. He met us in our sinful state, and endured throughout history to reconcile us back into a sacred relationship with Him, protected by His power & mercy.
Therefore, during all the hustle and spending during this holiday weekend, keep in mind what really matters in your life and relationships. Remember God’s love through Jesus, and consider how you are loving others. This is the true gift to the world we can supply freely to so many broken hearts.

Many Blessings!

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Marriage & Health

Can Health Be A Reflection of Your Marriage?

I read an intriguing article online yesterday that I thought deserved commenting on (article linked below for review). It gave an overview of a few research studies on the affect of marriage on health, highlighting the notion that married individuals enjoy a better state of health. Some of the factors they reviewed were lowered antisocial behavior for young males who married later on, lower risk of colon cancer and an improved survival rate for even coronary heart bypass surgery. As a medical doctor, I’m always interested in research that seeks to provide better insight on the relationship between matters of the heart and health, as I believe many health ailments are a result of issues born in the heart, mind, and spirit that is oftentimes overlooked. More importantly, as a child of the Heavenly Father and Great Physician, I know from Scripture that God created us with the intention to enjoy an abundant life overflowing with joy, health, and love. He created the first loving relationship by simply creating us! Then, He created the first marriage and couple in Adam & Eve. When God saw that Adam was not as content as could be despite the surrounding wildlife and nature, God created Eve out of Adam’s rib to fashion a partner after his own heart to enjoy life with…

  • Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
  • Genesis 2:22-23 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

Notice how in Gen 2:18 God said that is was NOT good for man to be alone, but to be in a partnership with someone suitable for him to enjoy life with. Being in a marriage ordained by the Living God is a good  thing, and is a blessing to be cherished and nurtured.

  • Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
  • Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

On an earthly level, some of us have been fortunate enough to experience how being in a secure, loving marriage uplifts your quality of life and feeds your soul. When you know you have a partner that has dedicated their life to being with you , who will bear with you through “thick and thin”, support you and defend your union, who will remain faithful to you through all trials and be your team-player in life, there is no better feeling. You have truly found a “home” in that marriage.

That is not to say that marriage is easy; of course it requires dedication and hard work to bring two lives together to become “one” as the Lord says. You have both HIS-tory and HER-story to meander and work through to create a new life as a family. However, when Jesus Christ is the center of your marriage, and its foundation is on solid Biblical truths, the marital path carved for the two is much smoother as you are “equally yoked”. As a result, you are in complete union in mind, heart, body, and spirit. There is less strife, strain, resentment, depression, and warring of spirits since you are both under Christ and agree on moral values. Therefore, both partners would enjoy improved health and well-being, as God blessed marriage to be.

On a spiritual level, a godly marriage also reflects on earth the heavenly marriage we entered into with God through Jesus Christ as our Savior. Just as in an earthly marriage, fidelity, faith, love, and honor are essential to upholding our marriage to God in Jesus:

  • Jeremiah 3:14 Turn, O backsliding children, saith the LORD; for I am married unto you: and I will take you one of a city, and two of a family, and I will bring you to Zion:
  • Hosea 2:19-20 And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the LORD.
Therefore, a healthy & godly marriage can bring forth blessings in physical, emotional, and spiritual health for both partners and their children. It’s nice to see that earthly science is revealing what God already showcased in His Living Word!

~Equallyoked~

Copyright V. Gilbert and Arlisle F. Beers

For the last 2 decades of my life, I have contemplated the meaning of 2 Corinthians 6:14, and have discovered in my latter years how far-reaching this passage is concerning Christ-centered love. There are so many ways to be unequally yoked, as the Word of God clearly outlines , often times resulting in more discord with a fellow believer than would be expected. Did you know that you can be “unequally yoked” with a another Christian? 2 Corinthians 6:14-16 runs deeper than the obvious not pairing your heart with an unbeliever in Christ; a Christian couple can have subtle differences that may seem on the surface as a hairline crack that in time reveals a hidden canyon underneath! Issues in temperaments, financial perspectives, education, communication styles, and parenting (to name a few) can truly wreck the foundation of a Christian relationship or courtship.

However, the most paramount of all is being unequally yoked in where each follower’s relationship stands with Christ. What do I mean by this? Suffice it to say, each believer’s journey with Christ is unique and is what makes Jesus such a personal Savior who can meet us where we’re at and develop/strengthen our relationship with him accordingly. Nonetheless, there are certain foundational elements in our beliefs in who God-Jesus-Holy Spirit is and His Word that should unify all Christians (1 Corinthians 12:12). If the building blocks of faith, salvation, and worship of Our Creator is in discord, how can a couple/friendship/business partnership/family fortify each other’s growth in The Lord ? What are the things that can’t be compromised on, and what can be?

It’s already challenging enough to nourish kinships of love in this world without the difficulty of also finding compatibility with another believer on topics we should be at peace with. However, I thank Our Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6) for exemplifying love and elements of companionship in His relationship with us. With His Word as an infallible guide, we can endeavor to understand and appreciate the dynamics of our own courtships & relationships. As a result, we can furnish our hope in materializing an earthly companionship centered in Christ and satisfying in everlasting love.