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Adam to My Eve

As I had mentioned in my previous post concerning my brief bout of insomnia (which I’ve now corrected thanks to God’s wisdom and answered prayers), I have spent the start of this secular new year in great contemplation. It’s clear that the world as we know it is changing so quickly in ways that fit perfectly with the warnings Jesus gave us in Matt 24 and in Revelations, that it is without question a year that will be unlike many others. So many of our freedoms, dreams, pleasures that we used to enjoy are being adulterated and it’s important as Followers of Christ’s Words that we spiritually prepare ourselves to stay “equally yoked” with Jesus to make it through until He takes us home.

waiting 4 loveJust as in Noah’s days, Lot’s days, and Moses’ days, there are circumstances which are not in line with what God had planned for us and we’ll need to prepare to be set apart from so much worldly distraction. This also has profound implications for how and who we choose as our mates. Personally, I find it extremely challenging in this derogatory environment to interact with a suitable Christian man who is fully aware of the secular times and is preparing in The Word and Holy Spirit for what’s to come. It’s hard being a single Christian woman who isn’t willing to compromise when most men can’t wait for an easy “target” to enjoy & disrespect at the same time. It seems like no one is interested in simply spending quality time to learn about each other and grow together in Christ and form a lasting union. We’re so busy trying to keep our financial heads afloat, seeking fulfillment in secular groups that can never keep us warm at night, and forgetting Our Creator who lovingly formed bonds of love for us to enjoy with each other. I often grapple with whom could I trust my heart to share with on this earth when so many relationships fail for lack of honesty, infidelity, abuse, disrespect, and superficiality. The “spiritual wickedness in high places” (Eph. 6:12) that we currently face is so prevalent, I sometimes wonder if it would even be wise to still believe in finding my “better half”….

At the end of the day, I have to keep my heart guarded (Prov 4:23) as the days grow more evil until the end. However, I’m still a woman in Christ and I still have a special place in my heart & soul for “the Adam to my Eve”. No matter how cold the world becomes, I’m still a woman with depth, passions, warmth, and aspirations to share with the right man in Christ. Of course, this is all said knowing that it is completely under God’s Perfect Will for my life, and I am prepared, just as Esther was, for my Bridegroom Jesus, whether an earthly groom is also included in my future. I don’t want to be without oil in 10 Virgins Parablemy lamp as 5 out of the 10 virgin brides were in Jesus’ parable (Matt 25)! Plus, in all honesty, knowing prophecy & how close time is to Christ’s return, it’s not that long left here in this world anyways, lol! Hence, I will press forward in Christ’s strength through the highs and lows of this single season….

But, it would be nice to walk hand-in-hand with a godly man someday…. ūüėČ

Attention Present & Future Christian Husbands!

As I was spending time meditating on God’s Word, a particular verse stood out to me:

~1 Peter 3:7 ¬†“Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor to¬†the¬†wife,¬†as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not¬†hindered.” ~

Now granted, I am not married, therefore I can’t speak on my sentiments of this verse from personal experience, however it ¬†did make me ponder on a few characteristics of a prospective Christian husband that I should consider. Therefore, to the gentlemen out there that will be reading this, please accept my following comments in the love and peace of Christ :)….

“Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge…”¬†Christian love

What does it mean to “dwell with them according to knowledge”? Well, for my future husband to actually be my husband in the first place, the first “knowledge” he would ¬†have to possess is, of course, a knowledge of Jesus Christ. Christ is the Head of the Church, particularly the “covering” (lead) over the man (1 Corinth 11: 3), therefore that prospective man must know who His Lord is. And, how would a man know The Lord? He would need to be actively engaged in a deep relationship with Christ & His Holy Word ; I want a man who will pray for me and with me, to pray over our union and be fully surrendered under Jesus’ Lordship. If my future husband has not put his entire life/mind/body/soul/spirit under Christ’s¬†guidance¬†& blood, who is he serving & what’s guiding him in how to treat me & our relationship (Lk 16:13, Eph 5:25) ??

Additionally, my husband must also have knowledge of me (a man cannot honestly¬†know me if he doesn’t know Christ first!) & of himself as a believer.¬†This may sound like an obvious point that doesn’t need to be made (of course your husband would know you, some might say), but as I mention throughout this blog, being “equally yoked ” goes beyond he & I just being Christian. How many times have we become aware of married partners who go through life never really learning about each other, marrying only to find out afterwards incompatibilities ignored before, or married for years only to end up “growing apart”? Slow down men (& women) & take the time to know the¬†intricacies¬†of a woman’s heart, spirit, hopes,& mind! This way, when we’re married & have to “dwell” together, we’ll be equipped to bear with each other & appreciate each other…

giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel…”

Here, I recognize that a Christian husband should give his wife honor & respect particularly in regards to two reasons: as being the “weaker vessel” and as “being heirs together of the grace of life”. ¬†Under the former reason, I should look forward to a husband who will appreciate & respect me not merely because I’m weaker in physical strength to him (although, that is important to the physical traits God endowed men with as opposed to women for enduring strenuous toil as in Genesis 3: 17-19), but that my feminine emotional nature should be addressed with tenderness and kindness. Husbands should refrain from harshness in speech or treatment, as well as are prohibited from cruelty (Col 3:19). ¬†We are not “1-of-the-boys”, nor are we any “chick” on the street. As Christian wives, we are women/ladies/your sisters in Christ, and therefore are to be regarded on a higher level from other women as Christ loved the Church (Eph 5:29-30) .

and as being heirs together of the grace of life..”¬†Christian Relationships

The 2nd¬† reason supplied here for a husband to honor his wife is because Christian wives also share in the inheritance & rewards of Christ’s salvation (Eph 1: 3, 14; Phil 4:19). Husband and wives are complements to each other on the same path to Christ’s return. I wouldn’t even venture to say that a married couple is on “parallel” paths to Christ, because that would still denote a level of separateness, when the Bible clearly states that in marriage, both become one (Gen 2:24). Therefore, in Christ we have both received the gift of God’s grace & blessings, in order that we may be ambassadors of Christ to others by way of our union.

“that your prayers be not hindered.”

Now, THIS element is a¬†bombshell! Christian husbands, future husbands…please take heed to this warning, as this strikes to the heart of the result of striving to be “equally yoked”. It is so paramount, Christian men, to regard your wives with such honor that if you fail or fall short of the previous elements in this verse, your prayers to God would be in vain! This is a major responsibility & calling on men (not to say wives don’t have their own responsibilities in respect for their own husbands, which will be discussed in another post), which makes clear sense because an unbeliever could not meet this calling. Hence, how could a man under Jesus pray for God’s blessings when he physically/emotionally/verbally abuses his wife?? How can a man of The Lord expect God to listen to his petitions when God hears the louder cries of the wife at night from disrespect?? How can you face God in prayer with an unrepentant heart constantly degrading your wife?? It simply cannot work! The man would not only be acting “unequally yoked” to his wife, but also unyoked to Christ’s commands. Just as a wife is not independent of her husband, so is a husband not independent of his wife (1 Corinth 11:11-12). Therefore, if a husband treats his wife with disgrace, he is¬†actually¬†treating himself with disgrace (Eph 5: 28-30). ¬†¬†Christian men

Although I didn’t mean for this post to be lengthy, it is with necessity that this¬†snippet¬†of God’s Word be meditated on for the profound life applications it holds for married couples. Christian men & husbands, God has called you to a high state, a “cut above the rest” in this secular world…don’t see it as a burden, but as the distictive honor that it is! As a follower of The Savior, you are a leading example to others for how men can be whole in Christ. You may not be perfect, as none of us are, but as a Christian woman, I can say that there is nothing like the authentic love of a Christian man. When a man is “taped into” the power of Jesus (as well as the wife), that relationship can move mountains and defend against demons!

So, to my future husband, if it be God’s Will and you are preserved out there in it, I am waiting & preparing ¬†for you!

May not your prayers be hindered! ūüôā

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Blessings! I just wanted to share a new YouTube video I just made concerning how Christians themselves can be unequally yoked in love relationships. My hope ¬†is that it will encourage others to look into what their hearts are join with and see if they are truly receiving God’s best for them.

This video is hot-off-the-presses, so please enjoy & be blessed! ūüėÄ