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Adam to My Eve

As I had mentioned in my previous post concerning my brief bout of insomnia (which I’ve now corrected thanks to God’s wisdom and answered prayers), I have spent the start of this secular new year in great contemplation. It’s clear that the world as we know it is changing so quickly in ways that fit perfectly with the warnings Jesus gave us in Matt 24 and in Revelations, that it is without question a year that will be unlike many others. So many of our freedoms, dreams, pleasures that we used to enjoy are being adulterated and it’s important as Followers of Christ’s Words that we spiritually prepare ourselves to stay “equally yoked” with Jesus to make it through until He takes us home.

waiting 4 loveJust as in Noah’s days, Lot’s days, and Moses’ days, there are circumstances which are not in line with what God had planned for us and we’ll need to prepare to be set apart from so much worldly distraction. This also has profound implications for how and who we choose as our mates. Personally, I find it extremely challenging in this derogatory environment to interact with a suitable Christian man who is fully aware of the secular times and is preparing in The Word and Holy Spirit for what’s to come. It’s hard being a single Christian woman who isn’t willing to compromise when most men can’t wait for an easy “target” to enjoy & disrespect at the same time. It seems like no one is interested in simply spending quality time to learn about each other and grow together in Christ and form a lasting union. We’re so busy trying to keep our financial heads afloat, seeking fulfillment in secular groups that can never keep us warm at night, and forgetting Our Creator who lovingly formed bonds of love for us to enjoy with each other. I often grapple with whom could I trust my heart to share with on this earth when so many relationships fail for lack of honesty, infidelity, abuse, disrespect, and superficiality. The “spiritual wickedness in high places” (Eph. 6:12) that we currently face is so prevalent, I sometimes wonder if it would even be wise to still believe in finding my “better half”….

At the end of the day, I have to keep my heart guarded (Prov 4:23) as the days grow more evil until the end. However, I’m still a woman in Christ and I still have a special place in my heart & soul for “the Adam to my Eve”. No matter how cold the world becomes, I’m still a woman with depth, passions, warmth, and aspirations to share with the right man in Christ. Of course, this is all said knowing that it is completely under God’s Perfect Will for my life, and I am prepared, just as Esther was, for my Bridegroom Jesus, whether an earthly groom is also included in my future. I don’t want to be without oil in 10 Virgins Parablemy lamp as 5 out of the 10 virgin brides were in Jesus’ parable (Matt 25)! Plus, in all honesty, knowing prophecy & how close time is to Christ’s return, it’s not that long left here in this world anyways, lol! Hence, I will press forward in Christ’s strength through the highs and lows of this single season….

But, it would be nice to walk hand-in-hand with a godly man someday…. ūüėČ

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Insomnia 2012

How has your start to 2012 been? I pray that Our Great Lord is keeping you all in grace and peace. Unfortunately, I was met at the beginning of this secular year with a resistant bout of insomnia which hindered my ability to do my normal daily tasks, including posting, which has become dear to me. Actually, it is a bittersweet result of my slowly healing adrenals; it’s “sweet” because it is a sign of my adrenals building up & making a bit more of it’s own hormones (chiefly cortisol in this case), however “bitter” because it is overproducing cortisol at the wrong time of the “day” and makes it difficult to sleep.

Cortisol is an extremely important hormone involved with modulating responses to stress (whether physical or emotional stress, the body doesn’t know the difference) and affects all body systems from your immunity to your metabolism. In fact, it is the main hormone that is meant to “kick-in” to wake you up in the morning after your melatonin (sleep hormone) decreases as the morning sunlight begins. Cortisol helps to get your body ready and alert to face the day and is meant to gradually decrease as the evening rolls around so you can eventually sleep (melatonin then takes over during the night with other important hormones). However with Adrenal Fatigue (Insuffiency), at a certain stage, your adrenals that make cortisol can misread when to send out or when to stop sending out cortisol, therefore the body could be kept “awake” at night because cortisol still remains in high levels.

I used to think that I was truly “wired”, or programmed physiologically, as a “night owl”, since my most creative & mentally active time of day has been between 12-3 AM. However, since adrenal fatigued stepped in, those glands cannot maintain that schedule and is overcompensating with excessive cortisol. If you find you can’t fall asleep when your body is tired, if you fall asleep only to awaken and not fall back to sleep, or your sleep ends short with lingering exhaustion, you might want to check with your health care professional if other symptoms might lead to hormonal testing & diagnosis.

This was also important for me to mention, as it has implications for relationship/marriage stability. As I’ve mentioned before, there are several things that can interfere with how couples relate or understand each other, and a significant one is one’s health. This is where Jesus’ teaching to bear with each other and be kind is paramount, since it is possible emotional tension could be rooted in a physical imbalance, such as in adrenal fatigue. Your partner may be irritable, depressed, moody, anxious, tired,trite, etc. due to hormonal fluctuations, not simply because that’s “the way they are”. Their behaviors could be a mirror to a real physical turmoil from within that is crying out for help. Therefore, let’s be more patient with each other, and offer comfort with the understanding that other¬†underlining¬†issues can exist from health problems.

I praise Father God for sharing His infinite wisdom & for His Holy Word for guidance as I wade through this recovery process. Thank you all for your¬†patience and continuing to follow & comment on my blog. I hope in God’s Will to respond & visit each of you, and will¬†definitely continue posting.¬†¬†I hope this post will be a blessing to others suffering with this condition. In our weakness, Christ is made strong!

God Bless!

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Blessings! I just wanted to share a new YouTube video I just made concerning how Christians themselves can be unequally yoked in love relationships. My hope ¬†is that it will encourage others to look into what their hearts are join with and see if they are truly receiving God’s best for them.

This video is hot-off-the-presses, so please enjoy & be blessed! ūüėÄ

Miss-Understood

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Do you go through life feeling misunderstood? Are there times when you wish you had someone who “gets” you and you¬†can feel comfortable with? As I continue meditating on the notion of being unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14), I reflect on how on the surface you can have the¬†veneer of Christian unity in the Church yet feel disjointed socially and emotionally. You can be in a room full of brothers and sisters in Christ, yet still feel alone. You can be what seems and feels like the misfit in the family whose voice falls on silent ears. Your partner can look straight into your eyes and you’re still invisible to them. You can even be the employee whose efforts at better quality work goes unnoticed.

There are many ways to experience being unequally yoked in life, and the resulting effects can range from a slight annoyance to utter devastation. Some of the roots of feeling misunderstood can stem from:

  • Lack of communication
  • Lack of the ability to empathize when (ineffective) communication is present
  • Lack of acceptance/tolerance of the other’s personality traits,¬†frailties, and tendencies
  • Low or excessively high expectations of the other person

On the 1st root, how can anyone understand each other when there is no discussions of feelings and perspectives? Where there is no communication, there is no union of heart, minds, or spirit. It is one thing to have moments of self-reflection and “down-time” to process the stresses of the day (I am one who benefits from periodic solitude, not too often though!), and it is a completely different situation to¬†consistently neglect/ignore each other, many times attempting to avoid conflicts. Even our Living God highlights the importance of communication not only with each other, but especially with Himself through a relationship with Christ (Ephesians 2:13-18,¬†1 Timothy 2:5), honest prayers (Matthew 6:6,¬†Psalms 55:17) , study of Scriptures (Romans 15:4,¬†Romans 16:26), the counsel of His Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 2:10-14), and throughout His Creation (Psalms 19:1,¬†Romans 1:20, Hebrews 11:3¬†). Therefore, actually communicating with your partner/other party is one of the first issues to be addressed.

When it comes to the inability to empathize with the other person, this is where I’ve seen and experienced alot of difficulty in feeling understood. Eventhough one may try to discuss their feelings and thoughts on an issue/topic, how far does mutual understanding go when the other person can “see” where you’re coming from mentally, spiritually, and emotionally? This is not to say that the other person must always agree with you to understand you. But, to empathize means you can, as the ol’ saying goes, “put yourself in the other person’s shoes”, which doesn’t mean you end up agreeing with their opinions. In other words, you should be able to take a moment to take stalk of what your partner is trying to say, put yourself in their mental-emotional “space” or environment/situation, and then try to envision/experience how you would feel/think if you were in the same predicament as them. This doesn’t require being “like” them or changing your personality to fit theirs, but it does require the neglected art of listening. Being empathetic not only helps you gain a better perspective on the other person’s feelings, but also offers a glimpse of their personality which leads to being better understood.

Lack of tolerance or acceptance of another’s traits, etc. is also a challenging problem to overcome. Are you constantly frustrated with your partner, friend, or¬†colleague? Do you find more tranquility when not around that person? Are there certain ways or nuances of the person that lead to friction,¬†arguments, and annoyance? ¬†The first area I believe is worth acknowledging is the simple fact that no one within themselves is perfect and according to Scripture, we have all have “fallen short ¬†of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23-24,¬†1 John 1:8), however through Jesus we are given ¬†His righteousness where His strength is made perfect in our weaknesses (2 Corinthians 12:19). Knowing this allows us to bear with one another as we recognize the need to encourage each other in Christ (Colossians 3:13). That being said, it is also important to honestly review your compatibility status, if you actually like the other person and have basic respect for them as a fellow follower of Christ (James 2:13). Look at each other’s “deal-breakers” and see if there are areas that you can compromise on outside of those “deal breakers”. If there are too many deal-breakers sought to be compromised on, you may have a very “unequally yoked” situation on your hands!

Last, but¬†certainly¬†not least, is the gravity of/complete absence of standards placed on the other person. If expectations on behavior are too high, you leave an imperfect fellow member in Christ no room to breathe and authentically be themselves. You not only create an impossible ladder in character to climb, but also develop an environment of exaltedness that should be humbled (Matthew 23:12) and unnecessary grief. It also reflects how inflexible you are with your own shortcomings and human¬†frailties. You should not only forgive others of their imperfections, but also forgive yourself as The Lord has so graciously forgiven us (Ephesians 4:32). Don’t make it impossible for others to be in your presence! However, not having any expectations on how to be treated is also not beneficial in any relationship. You cannot expect another person to understand who you are if you don’t understand yourself in Christ (1 Corinthians 6:11). It is also unfair to assume someone can understand you without expressing some type of framework on how you’d like to be treated. It showcases the point that you should “treat others as you’d like to be treated” (Matthew 7:12).

As you can see, there are plenty of grounds upon which a person can be misunderstood and a relationship can be plagued with strife. The world we temporarily live in (until Jesus Christ’s return¬†John 14:3) is filled with so much strain that it is truly refreshing to experience an earthly relationship with a believer whom you feel “at-home” with. We as true Christians are already “foreigners” in this world (John 15:19) and “peculiar” to the ways/treatment of this world (1 Peter 2:9), therefore why make it harder on ourselves by not seeking to comprehend each other? I certainly know there are things that I can improve upon to understanding others, and the first step in that is awareness of the reasons why we feel misunderstood. My prayer is that in reading this, you will also be encouraged to find better ways to communicate, empathize,¬†forbear, and respect others that will transform you from being “unequally yoked” to Equallyoked!

Sincerely,

Miss-Understood